Our parts have felt so scattered lately, and we’ve had some new and different experiences, ones we’ve just wanted to push away and dismiss as life being “as it is,” and denying our DID and our parts.
There is something somewhat sacred that happens when insiders begin to realize that there is a commitment to the inner collective. Sometimes they seem to test the commitment and dedication by behaving in ways that feel…a little sideways 🫠 But when we keep meeting them with love and compassion along with explanations of how that sideways behavior impacted relationships/the body/whatever…but we are still there for them and with them, they do seem to soften a bit.
The amount of work to get things to a place of collaboration most of the time can feel daunting (especially if everyone around you is a single identity person who doesn’t have to do any of this stuff) —but we always go back to “what’s the alternative?” And…well… that’s a Category 4 spaghetti event so… we stick with it.
Sending lots of gentleness on the journey (and, of course, 🍟) 🐧🩷🫶💜
We loved your reply and yes, there is something incredibly sacred when insiders needs are met with commitment in whatever way we can. We feel a small shift when this happens. And yes!! we have been tested out on many occasion. But as you say being consistent and constant with love and compassion no matter what goes sideways seems to help, (as hard and frustrating as that is at times). And also acknowledging that I don't always get it right, which also sends stuff on the sideways too! We definitely go sideways a lot! Because for the most part it's new and we struggle to know what to do! It is daunting, but as you say the alternative is spaghetti, usually in abundance!!
Thank you for bringing your unique you-ness to all of this. We appreciate you. 🐧🐧🫶💜🍟
There is something somewhat sacred that happens when insiders begin to realize that there is a commitment to the inner collective. Sometimes they seem to test the commitment and dedication by behaving in ways that feel…a little sideways 🫠 But when we keep meeting them with love and compassion along with explanations of how that sideways behavior impacted relationships/the body/whatever…but we are still there for them and with them, they do seem to soften a bit.
The amount of work to get things to a place of collaboration most of the time can feel daunting (especially if everyone around you is a single identity person who doesn’t have to do any of this stuff) —but we always go back to “what’s the alternative?” And…well… that’s a Category 4 spaghetti event so… we stick with it.
Sending lots of gentleness on the journey (and, of course, 🍟) 🐧🩷🫶💜
We loved your reply and yes, there is something incredibly sacred when insiders needs are met with commitment in whatever way we can. We feel a small shift when this happens. And yes!! we have been tested out on many occasion. But as you say being consistent and constant with love and compassion no matter what goes sideways seems to help, (as hard and frustrating as that is at times). And also acknowledging that I don't always get it right, which also sends stuff on the sideways too! We definitely go sideways a lot! Because for the most part it's new and we struggle to know what to do! It is daunting, but as you say the alternative is spaghetti, usually in abundance!!
Thank you for bringing your unique you-ness to all of this. We appreciate you. 🐧🐧🫶💜🍟